# Long-distance grandparenting for expat families

Updated 2026-11-05

Expat families keep kids close to grandparents abroad with a fixed weekly call in the one time window that works for both, plenty of asynchronous contact in between (voice notes, photos, a game each side plays in its own time), the grandparents' language and traditions woven into ordinary weeks, and long visits planned well ahead.

## What makes it harder when grandparents live in another country?

Three things stack up: time zones shrink the window for live calls, visits are expensive and rare, and the grandkids may be growing up in a different language and culture from their grandparents. None of these is a reason the relationship can't be close. They just mean it needs more rhythm and less improvising.

## How do you find a call time across time zones?

- Write out both families' days side by side and look for the overlap: often a weekend morning for one side and evening for the other.
- Pick one fixed slot a week and protect it, rather than trying to call whenever.
- Put a second clock on the kitchen wall set to the grandparents' time, so the kids learn when Grandma is awake.
- When daylight saving changes, check again: countries switch on different dates, and some don't switch at all.

## What can you do when live calls are hard?

- Voice notes and short videos, sent whenever: a song, a lost tooth, a goal.
- A photo a day in a shared album, from both sides.
- A game each side plays in its own time, then compares on the weekend call. Ours keeps each case open until the next one arrives, so families split it over whatever calls they can manage.
- A story read aloud by the grandparent and recorded for bedtime.

## How do grandparents help keep a family language alive?

Grandparents are often the best reason a child has to keep speaking a heritage language: it's the language of someone they love. Let the grandparent own it gently: songs, rhymes, the names of foods, a word of the week, a picture book read in their language.

Don't turn calls into lessons. If the child answers in the other language, keep going; many children understand a language well before they're comfortable speaking it.

## How do you share holidays from two countries?

- Celebrate the grandparents' holidays at home too, and call them on the day for the part that matters most: the candle, the meal, the song.
- Ask the grandparents to tell the kids what the day was like when they were small.
- Send recipes in both directions and cook the same dish on the same day.
- Let the grandkids show off your new country's holidays to the grandparents in return.

## How do you make visits count?

- Plan the next visit before the current one ends, so there's always a date to look forward to.
- Longer, less frequent stays often work better than short ones once you account for jet lag.
- Leave room for ordinary days: school runs, cooking, the park. That's where the relationship grows.
- Afterwards, make a small photo book of the visit for both homes.

## What about mail and gifts across borders?

International post is slow and customs can add delays and fees, so send early or send things that travel light: letters, drawings, flat gifts. For holidays, anything delivered by email (tickets, a class, a game) avoids the post entirely and can still feel personal if the kids make a card to go with it.

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- [New Year's traditions for long-distance families](https://www.cluemoo.com/guides/new-years-traditions-for-long-distance-families)
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